Very thoughtful post over on Peril about race and attraction. It covers gendered racial stereotypes in mainstream movies, whether race is an acceptable exclusion criteria on dating and hook-up sites, and how racism can play out through such cultures. It also raises an interesting point that attractions to anyone outside the current white, young, thin, non-disabled, gender-normative body ideal are regarded as a fetish (when attraction to those ideals is not).
This touches on something that I explore in Rewriting the Rules about how attraction is often regarded as ‘natural’ and unchanging. It is considered acceptable that we have certain ‘types’. But in a culture where attractiveness ideals are increasingly narrow, excluding many in ways which reflect and reinforce patterns of privilege and oppression, might it be useful to challenge this: to consider how our attractions are influenced by wider culture, and to explore practices which might open up our conceptions of beauty and attractiveness rather than closing them down?